{"id":10113,"date":"2017-10-01T17:12:07","date_gmt":"2017-10-01T17:12:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifeandnews.com\/articles\/?p=10113"},"modified":"2017-10-01T17:12:07","modified_gmt":"2017-10-01T17:12:07","slug":"what-its-like-to-be-gay-and-in-a-gang","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeandnews.com\/articles\/what-its-like-to-be-gay-and-in-a-gang\/","title":{"rendered":"What it’s like to be gay and in a gang"},"content":{"rendered":"

Vanessa R. Panfil<\/a>, Old Dominion University<\/a><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

There are many stereotypes of and assumptions about street gangs<\/a>, just as there are many stereotypes and assumptions about gay men<\/a>. Pretty much none of those stereotypes overlap. <\/p>\n

In movies and television, some of the most recognizable gay characters have been portrayed as effeminate or weak<\/a>; they\u2019re \u201cfashionistas\u201d or \u201cgay best friends.\u201d Street gang members, on the other hand, are often depicted as hypermasculine, heterosexual and tough. <\/p>\n

This obvious contradiction was one of the main reasons I was drawn to the subject of gay gang members. <\/p>\n

For my new book \u201cThe Gang\u2019s All Queer<\/a>,\u201d I interviewed and spent time with 48 gay or bisexual male gang members. All were between the ages of 18 and 28; the majority were men of color; and all lived in or near Columbus, Ohio, which has been referred to<\/a> as a \u201cMidwestern gay mecca.\u201d <\/p>\n

The experience, which took place over the course of more than two years, allowed me to explore the tensions they felt between gang life and gay manhood. <\/p>\n

Some of the gang members were in gangs made up of primarily gay, lesbian or bisexual people. Others were the only gay man (or one of a few) in an otherwise \u201cstraight\u201d gang. Then there were what I call \u201chybrid\u201d gangs, which featured a mix of straight, gay, lesbian and bisexual members, but with straight people still in the majority. Most of these gangs were primarily male.<\/p>\n

Because even the idea<\/a> of a gay man being in a gang flies in the face of conventional thought, the gang members I spoke with had to constantly resist or subvert a range of stereotypes and expectations.<\/p>\n

Getting in by being out<\/h2>\n

Male spaces can be difficult for women to enter, whether it\u2019s boardrooms<\/a>, legislative bodies<\/a> or locker rooms<\/a>.<\/p>\n

How could I \u2013 a white, middle-class woman with no prior gang involvement \u2013 gain access to these gangs in the first place? <\/p>\n

It helped that the initial group of men whom I spoke to knew me from years earlier, when we became friends at a drop-in center for LGBTQ youth. They vouched for me to their friends. I was openly gay \u2013 part of the \u201cfamily,\u201d as some of them put it \u2013 and because I was a student conducting research for a book, they were confident that I stood a better chance of accurately representing them than any \u201cstraight novelist\u201d or journalist. <\/p>\n

But I also suspect that my own masculine presentation allowed them to feel more at ease; I speak directly, have very short hair and usually leave the house in plaid, slacks and Adidas shoes.<\/p>\n

While my race and gender did make for some awkward interactions (some folks we encountered assumed I was a police officer or a business owner), with time I gained their trust, started getting introduced to more members and began to learn about how each type of gang presented its own set of challenges.<\/p>\n

Pressure to act the part<\/h2>\n

The gay men in straight gangs I spoke with knew precisely what was expected of them: be willing to fight with rival gangs, demonstrate toughness, date or have sex with women and be financially independent. <\/p>\n

Being effeminate was a nonstarter; they were all careful to present a uniformly masculine persona, lest they lose status and respect. Likewise, coming out was a huge risk. Being openly gay could threaten their status as well as their safety<\/a>. Only a handful of them came out to their traditional gangs, and this sometimes resulted in serious consequences, such as being \u201cbled out\u201d of the gang (forced out through a fight).<\/p>\n

Despite the dangers, some wanted to come out. But a number of fears held them back. Would their fellow gang members start to distrust them? What if the other members got preoccupied about being sexually approached? Would the status of the gang be compromised, with other gangs seeing them as \u201csoft\u201d for having openly gay guys in it? <\/p>\n

So most stayed in the closet, continuing to project heterosexuality, while discreetly meeting other gay men in underground gay scenes or over the internet. <\/p>\n

As one man told me, he was glad cellphones had been invented because he could keep his private sexual life with men just that: private. <\/p>\n

One particularly striking story came from a member of a straight gang who made a date for sex over the internet, only to discover that it was two fellow gang members who had arranged the date with him. He hadn\u2019t known the others were gay, and they didn\u2019t know about him, either. <\/p>\n

Becoming \u2018known\u2019<\/h2>\n

In \u201chybrid\u201d gangs (those with a sizable minority of gay, lesbian or bisexual people) or all-gay gangs, the men I interviewed were held to many of the same standards. But they had more flexibility. <\/p>\n

In the hybrid gangs, members felt far more comfortable coming out than those in purely straight gangs. In their words, they were able to be \u201cthe real me.\u201d <\/p>\n

Men in gay gangs were expected to be able to build a public reputation as a gay man \u2013 what they called becoming \u201cknown.\u201d Being \u201cknown\u201d means you\u2019re able to achieve many masculine ideals \u2013 making money, being taken seriously, gaining status, looking good \u2013 but as an openly gay man. <\/p>\n

It was also more acceptable for them to project femininity, whether it was making flamboyant gestures, using effeminate mannerisms, or wearing certain styles of clothing, like skinny jeans. <\/p>\n

They were still in a gang. This meant they needed to clash with rival gay crews, so they valued toughness and fighting prowess. <\/p>\n

Men in gay gangs especially expressed genuine and heartfelt connections to their fellow gang members. They didn\u2019t just think of them as associates. These were their friends, their chosen families<\/a> \u2013 their pillars of emotional support. <\/p>\n

Confronting contradictions<\/h2>\n

But sometimes these gang members would vacillate about certain expectations.<\/p>\n

They questioned if being tough or eager to fight constituted what it should mean to be a man. Although they viewed these norms with a critical eye, across the board they tended to prefer having \u201cmasculine\u201d men as sexual partners or friends. Some would also patrol each other\u2019s masculinity, insulting other gay men who were flamboyant or feminine. <\/p>\n

Caught between not wanting themselves or others to be pressured to act masculine all the time, but also not wanting to be read as visibly gay or weak (which could invite challenges), resistance to being seen as a \u201cpunk\u201d or a pushover was critical. <\/p>\n

It all seemed to come from a desire to upend damaging cultural stereotypes of gay men as weak, of black men as \u201cdeadbeats\u201d and offenders, and of gang members as violent thugs. <\/p>\n

But this created its own tricky terrain. In order to not be financial deadbeats, they resorted to sometimes selling drugs or sex; in order to not be seen as weak, they sometimes fought back, perhaps getting hurt in the process. Their social worlds and definitions of acceptable identity were constantly changing and being challenged. <\/p>\n

Fighting back<\/h2>\n

One of the most compelling findings of my study was what happened when these gay gang members were derisively called \u201cfag\u201d or \u201cfaggot\u201d by straight men in bars, on buses, in schools or on the streets. Many responded with their fists. <\/p>\n

Some fought back even if they weren\u2019t openly gay. Sure, the slur was explicitly meant to attack their masculinity and sexuality in ways they didn\u2019t appreciate. But it was important to them to be able to construct an identity as a man who wasn\u2019t going to be messed with \u2013 a man who also happened to be gay.<\/p>\n

Their responses<\/a> were revealing: \u201cI will fight you like I\u2019m straight\u201d; \u201cI\u2019m gonna show you what this faggot can do.\u201d They were also willing to defend others derided as \u201cfags\u201d in public, even though this could signal that they were gay themselves. <\/p>\n

These comebacks challenge many of the assumptions made about gay men \u2013 that they lack nerve, that they\u2019re unwilling to physically fight. <\/p>\n

\"TheIt also communicated a belief that was clearly nonnegotiable: a fundamental right to not be bothered simply for being gay.<\/p>\n

Vanessa R. Panfil<\/a>, Assistant Professor of Sociology and Criminal Justice, Old Dominion University<\/a><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

This article was originally published on The Conversation<\/a>. Read the original article<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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