{"id":16619,"date":"2019-05-31T04:22:16","date_gmt":"2019-05-31T04:22:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifeandnews.com\/articles\/?p=16619"},"modified":"2019-06-01T05:25:08","modified_gmt":"2019-06-01T05:25:08","slug":"why-fewer-and-fewer-americans-are-getting-divorced","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeandnews.com\/articles\/why-fewer-and-fewer-americans-are-getting-divorced\/","title":{"rendered":"Why fewer and fewer Americans are getting divorced"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span><a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/profiles\/tera-r-jordan-713617\">Tera R. Jordan<\/a>, <em><a href=\"http:\/\/theconversation.com\/institutions\/iowa-state-university-1322\">Iowa State University<\/a><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Fewer and fewer Americans are getting divorced, with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bloomberg.com\/news\/articles\/2018-09-25\/millennials-are-causing-the-u-s-divorce-rate-to-plummet\">the rates falling<\/a> 18% between 2008 and 2016.<\/p>\n<p>Among American adults, there is <a href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/j.1741-3737.2010.00723.x\">support for divorce<\/a> when couples do not get along. Women, people from underrepresented racial and ethnic groups, and adults who have experienced divorce personally or among friends and family are especially likely to be accepting. <\/p>\n<p>Despite this growing acceptance, the divorce rate dipped again in 2018. The decline began <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bgsu.edu\/content\/dam\/BGSU\/college-of-arts-and-sciences\/NCFMR\/documents\/FP\/anderson-divorce-rate-us-geo-2016-fp-16-21.pdf\">in 1980<\/a> or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.statista.com\/statistics\/195955\/divorce-rate-in-the-united-states-since-1990\/\">1990<\/a>, depending on the data source and experts. According to the Centers for Disease Control, the number of divorced persons per 1,000 Americans fell from 4.7 in 1990 to 2.9 in 2016.<\/p>\n<p>Who is driving this downward trend? Adults age 45 and younger.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" id=\"Av6fX\" class=\"tc-infographic-datawrapper\" src=\"https:\/\/datawrapper.dwcdn.net\/Av6fX\/2\/\" height=\"400px\" width=\"100%\" style=\"border: none\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h2>Younger adults<\/h2>\n<p>Young adults are being more decisive \u2013 in not only the timing of their nuptials, but also their choice to marry. <\/p>\n<p>Many of these younger adults choose to marry after they have achieved their desired levels of education, established careers and stabilized their finances. They also want to be <a href=\"https:\/\/www.routledgehandbooks.com\/doi\/10.4324\/9781315820880.ch3\">\u201cbonded\u201d with a mate based on love, friendship and common interests<\/a>, not social obligation.<\/p>\n<p>In the U.S., the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.census.gov\/content\/dam\/Census\/library\/visualizations\/time-series\/demo\/families-and-households\/ms-2.pdf\">average age at marriage<\/a> has risen, from 26.1 for men and 22 for women in 1890, to 29.8 for men and 27.8 for women in 2018. <\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" id=\"fFudh\" class=\"tc-infographic-datawrapper\" src=\"https:\/\/datawrapper.dwcdn.net\/fFudh\/2\/\" height=\"400px\" width=\"100%\" style=\"border: none\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>I am a <a href=\"https:\/\/scholar.google.com\/citations?user=qiaoIGYAAAAJ&amp;hl=en\">human development and family studies scholar<\/a> who has spent 20 years studying intimate relationships. In one study, I <a href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1080\/01494929.2014.905816\">examined the perspectives of<\/a> 52 married black men. Achieving their goals relative to education, work and finances was a significant factor in deciding when to marry their wives. <\/p>\n<p>Men praised how the unions with their wives afforded them <a href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1177\/0192513X12451737\">secure attachment and emotional support, as well as enhanced life success<\/a>. Nearly one-quarter emphasized <a href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/pere.12019\">the role of individual development and being ready for the type of commitment<\/a> that a successful marriage requires. <\/p>\n<p>These considerations promote the likelihood of long-term, happy marriages in a culture that values fulfilling one\u2019s goals and happiness. <\/p>\n<h2>Gray divorce<\/h2>\n<p>Meanwhile, older adults are actually becoming more likely to get divorced.<\/p>\n<p>Among those 50 years of age or older, <a href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1093\/geronb\/gbs089\">scholars have<\/a> reported a rise in divorce from 1 in 10 in 1990 to nearly 1 in 4 in 2010. This trend is called \u201cgray divorce.\u201d <\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" id=\"bHfe5\" class=\"tc-infographic-datawrapper\" src=\"https:\/\/datawrapper.dwcdn.net\/bHfe5\/1\/\" height=\"400px\" width=\"100%\" style=\"border: none\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/assets.aarp.org\/rgcenter\/general\/divorce.pdf\">A report commissioned by the AARP<\/a> offers insight into the nature and consequences of gray divorce. Women\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.2307\/3038300\">economic independence<\/a> may <a href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1002\/9781118374085.ch15\">help them opt out<\/a> of these <a href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/j.1741-3737.2010.00723.x\">unhappy marriages<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Some older adults end their unhappy unions because they have grown apart. <a href=\"https:\/\/lib.dr.iastate.edu\/etd\/16721\">In her dissertation<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.routledge.com\/Falling-Out-of-Romantic-Love-A-Therapeutic-Guide-for-Individuals-Couples\/Wilhite-Hemesath\/p\/book\/9781138327559\">forthcoming book<\/a>, marriage and family therapist Crystal Hemesath defines falling out of romantic love as a lack of sexual attraction, emotional connectedness or sense of relationship togetherness. <\/p>\n<p>After older adults have perhaps cared for dependent children, parents or other relatives, spouses may reassess their marriages and ask, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.forbes.com\/sites\/margueritacheng\/2019\/02\/26\/grey-divorce-its-reasons-its-implications\/#2f37594f4acd\">\u201cWhat\u2019s next?,\u201d \u201cWho are you?\u201d or, better yet, \u201cWho am I?\u201d<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Hemesath interviewed 15 adults. Laura, a 59-year-old woman who was married for 18 years, said this: \u201cIt wasn\u2019t until my dad became gravely ill. I would say to my husband, \u2018Will you go in and see if dad\u2019s okay?\u2019 He\u2019d say, \u2018He\u2019s fine.\u2019 It causes you to look at your own mortality. This person is still emotionally unavailable and distant and if I don\u2019t get out now, I\u2019m doomed. I was unhappy in year one and I stayed 17 more. I hoped that it would change. I didn\u2019t really have the courage to get out. I think a lot of people stay in \u2026 for fear of the unknown. It sort of takes your soul away.\u201d <\/p>\n<p>Among those 50 and over, there may simply be irreconcilable differences with how one chooses to live the rest of his or her life and the type of love and companionship one desires.<\/p>\n<h2>Choosing marriage<\/h2>\n<p>The pattern in marriage and divorce across both age groups highlights the rise in individualism in our culture. Today, adults have more agency to chart their own life paths based on options they perceive as being available to them. <\/p>\n<p>And because society is more supportive of other ways of forming families, adults are more apt to take their time to marry, if they want to, and exit, if they need to, in order to be happy.<\/p>\n<p>Sociologist <a href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.31235\/osf.io\/h2sk6\">Philip Cohen<\/a> summed up this issue in a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bloomberg.com\/news\/articles\/2018-09-25\/millennials-are-causing-the-u-s-divorce-rate-to-plummet\">September 2018 Bloomberg article<\/a>. \u201cMarriage is more and more an achievement of status, rather than something that people do regardless of how they\u2019re doing,\u201d he wrote. \u201cMarriage is becoming a more durable, but far more exclusive, institution.\u201d <\/p>\n<p>This is an important change in the way in which adults approach marriage.<!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. Please DO NOT REMOVE. --><img loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/counter.theconversation.com\/content\/115036\/count.gif?distributor=republish-lightbox-basic\" alt=\"The Conversation\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" style=\"border: none !important; box-shadow: none !important; margin: 0 !important; max-height: 1px !important; max-width: 1px !important; min-height: 1px !important; min-width: 1px !important; opacity: 0 !important; outline: none !important; padding: 0 !important; text-shadow: none !important\" \/><!-- End of code. If you don't see any code above, please get new code from the Advanced tab after you click the republish button. The page counter does not collect any personal data. More info: http:\/\/theconversation.com\/republishing-guidelines --><\/p>\n<p><span><a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/profiles\/tera-r-jordan-713617\">Tera R. Jordan<\/a>, Associate Professor of Human Development and Family Studies, <em><a href=\"http:\/\/theconversation.com\/institutions\/iowa-state-university-1322\">Iowa State University<\/a><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p>This article is republished from <a href=\"http:\/\/theconversation.com\">The Conversation<\/a> under a Creative Commons license. Read the <a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/why-fewer-and-fewer-americans-are-getting-divorced-115036\">original article<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Tera R. Jordan, Iowa State University Fewer and fewer Americans are getting divorced, with the rates falling 18% between 2008 and 2016. Among American adults, there is support for divorce when couples do not get along. 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