{"id":20617,"date":"2020-05-14T20:01:45","date_gmt":"2020-05-14T20:01:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifeandnews.com\/articles\/?p=20617"},"modified":"2020-05-15T14:13:48","modified_gmt":"2020-05-15T14:13:48","slug":"why-do-kids-call-their-parents-mom-and-dad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeandnews.com\/articles\/why-do-kids-call-their-parents-mom-and-dad\/","title":{"rendered":"Why do kids call their parents &#8216;Mom&#8217; and &#8216;Dad&#8217;?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/profiles\/bethany-van-vleet-1054287\">Bethany Van Vleet<\/a>, <em><a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/institutions\/arizona-state-university-730\">Arizona State University<\/a><\/em> and <a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/profiles\/denise-bodman-1054283\">Denise Bodman<\/a>, <em><a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/institutions\/arizona-state-university-730\">Arizona State University<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<figure class=\"align-left \"><img src=\"https:\/\/images.theconversation.com\/files\/281719\/original\/file-20190628-76743-26slbc.png?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=237&amp;fit=clip\" sizes=\"(min-width: 1466px) 754px, (max-width: 599px) 100vw, (min-width: 600px) 600px, 237px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/images.theconversation.com\/files\/281719\/original\/file-20190628-76743-26slbc.png?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=293&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=1 600w, https:\/\/images.theconversation.com\/files\/281719\/original\/file-20190628-76743-26slbc.png?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=30&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=293&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=2 1200w, https:\/\/images.theconversation.com\/files\/281719\/original\/file-20190628-76743-26slbc.png?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=15&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=293&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=3 1800w, https:\/\/images.theconversation.com\/files\/281719\/original\/file-20190628-76743-26slbc.png?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=368&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=1 754w, https:\/\/images.theconversation.com\/files\/281719\/original\/file-20190628-76743-26slbc.png?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=30&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=368&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=2 1508w, https:\/\/images.theconversation.com\/files\/281719\/original\/file-20190628-76743-26slbc.png?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=15&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=368&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=3 2262w\" alt=\"\" \/><figcaption><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p><em><a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/us\/topics\/curious-kids-us-74795\">Curious Kids<\/a> is a series for children of all ages. If you have a question you\u2019d like an expert to answer, send it to <a href=\"mailto:curiouskidsus@theconversation.com\">curiouskidsus@theconversation.com<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<blockquote><p><strong>Why do most kids call their parents \u201cMom\u201d and \u201cDad\u201d? \u2013 Henry E., age 9, Somerville, Massachusetts<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<hr \/>\n<p>Once, a long time ago, one of us, Bethany, fell behind at the grocery store and was trying to catch up. She called out her mom\u2019s name, \u201cMom!,\u201d and to her frustration, half the women there turned around and the other half ignored Bethany, assuming it was someone else\u2019s child.<\/p>\n<p>How was Bethany going to get her mom\u2019s attention? She knew a secret trick that would work for sure: Her mom had another name. She called \u201cDenise!\u201d and magically, just her mom (the other one of us) turned around.<\/p>\n<p>But why do almost all kids use the same name for their parents? This is the kind of question <a href=\"https:\/\/scholar.google.com\/citations?user=f2RwlNoAAAAJ&amp;hl=en&amp;oi=ao\">we enjoy investigating as<\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/scholar.google.com\/citations?hl=en&amp;user=20slzkIAAAAJ&amp;view_op=list_works&amp;authuser=1&amp;sortby=pubdate\">scientists who study<\/a> families and human development.<\/p>\n<h2>The sounds heard \u2018round the world<\/h2>\n<p>All around the world, the words for \u201cmom,\u201d \u201cdad,\u201d \u201cgrandma\u201d and \u201cgrandpa\u201d are almost the same. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.penguinrandomhouse.com\/books\/298380\/the-meaning-of-tingo-by-adam-jacot-de-boinod\/9781101201299\">Other words<\/a> aren\u2019t nearly as similar.<\/p>\n<p>Take \u201cdog,\u201d for example. In French, \u201cdog\u201d is \u201cchien\u201d; in Dutch, it is \u201chond\u201d; and in Hungarian, it is \u201ckutya.\u201d But if you needed to get your mother\u2019s attention in France, the Netherlands or Hungary, you\u2019d call \u201cMaman,\u201d \u201cMama\u201d or \u201cMamma.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" id=\"IcbXT\" class=\"tc-infographic-datawrapper\" style=\"border: none;\" src=\"https:\/\/datawrapper.dwcdn.net\/IcbXT\/3\/\" width=\"100%\" height=\"400px\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>You can say \u201cMom\u201d in any country in the world and people would pretty much know who you meant. And did you notice that \u201cDad\u201d is also similar across languages \u2013 \u201cPapa,\u201d \u201cBaba,\u201d \u201cTad\u201d and \u201cDad\u201d?<\/p>\n<p>Scientists have noticed the same thing. George Peter Murdock was an anthropologist, which is a scientist who studies people and cultures. Pete, as his friends called him, traveled the globe back in the 1940s and collected information about families from all over. He discovered 1,072 similar words for \u201cmom\u201d and \u201cdad.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Pete handed this data over to linguists, the scientists who study language, and challenged them to figure out why these words sound the same. Roman Jakobson, a famous linguist and literary theorist, then <a href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1515\/9783110820041-021\">wrote an entire chapter on \u201cmama\u201d and \u201cpapa.\u201d<\/a><\/p>\n<p>The first sounds infants make are those that are made with the lips and are easily seen: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.asha.org\/uploadedFiles\/ASHA\/Practice_Portal\/Clinical_Topics\/Late_Language_Emergence\/Consonant-Acquisition-Chart.pdf\">m, b and p<\/a>. These sounds are quickly followed by other sounds that can be easily seen: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.asha.org\/uploadedFiles\/ASHA\/Practice_Portal\/Clinical_Topics\/Late_Language_Emergence\/Consonant-Acquisition-Chart.pdf\">t and d<\/a>. It\u2019s possible that as infants practice making these easy sounds (mamamamama) or produce these sounds while nursing or drinking from a bottle, the mother hears \u201cmama.\u201d She then smiles with joy and says, \u201cMama! You said Mama!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Of course, the baby is happy to see the mother happy, <a href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.3389\/fpsyg.2017.01918\">so the baby says it again<\/a>. Bingo, \u201cMama\u201d is born. Similarly, the baby may practice \u201cdadadadada\u201d or \u201cpapapapa\u201d and the parents\u2019 reactions result in the baby repeating \u201cdada\u201d or \u201cpapa.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>These words refer to the two most important people in most babies\u2019 lives, followed closely by similar words for grandparents \u2013 nana, tata, bobcia, nonno, opa, omo \u2013 who often play important roles, as well.<\/p>\n<h2>Reinforcing everyone\u2019s roles<\/h2>\n<p>But there\u2019s more to this story. Once children can say many sounds, why don\u2019t they call their parents Ella, Zoheb, Dipankar or Denise?<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s because we all have rules that most of us follow. These are <a href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.9707\/2307-0919.1061\">rules related to our cultures, our societies and even our families<\/a>. We have rules for how to greet people (shake hands, hug), how to use forks or chopsticks, what to call our teacher (\u201cMrs. Bell\u201d) and even where to sit at the dinner table.<\/p>\n<p>We don\u2019t think of these things as \u201crules\u201d; they\u2019re just there. One of these kinds of rules in most families around the world is that parents are the heads of the household and children are supposed to listen to them. By calling parents \u201cMom\u201d or \u201cDad,\u201d it helps everyone stick to their roles.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"align-center zoomable\"><a href=\"https:\/\/images.theconversation.com\/files\/332877\/original\/file-20200505-83745-80okg4.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=1000&amp;fit=clip\"><img src=\"https:\/\/images.theconversation.com\/files\/332877\/original\/file-20200505-83745-80okg4.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;fit=clip\" sizes=\"(min-width: 1466px) 754px, (max-width: 599px) 100vw, (min-width: 600px) 600px, 237px\" srcset=\"https:\/\/images.theconversation.com\/files\/332877\/original\/file-20200505-83745-80okg4.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=400&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=1 600w, https:\/\/images.theconversation.com\/files\/332877\/original\/file-20200505-83745-80okg4.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=30&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=400&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=2 1200w, https:\/\/images.theconversation.com\/files\/332877\/original\/file-20200505-83745-80okg4.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=15&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=400&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=3 1800w, https:\/\/images.theconversation.com\/files\/332877\/original\/file-20200505-83745-80okg4.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=503&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=1 754w, https:\/\/images.theconversation.com\/files\/332877\/original\/file-20200505-83745-80okg4.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=30&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=503&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=2 1508w, https:\/\/images.theconversation.com\/files\/332877\/original\/file-20200505-83745-80okg4.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=15&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=503&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=3 2262w\" alt=\"\" \/><\/a><figcaption><span class=\"caption\">Families figure out the versions that work best for them.<\/span><br \/>\n<span class=\"attribution\"><a class=\"source\" href=\"https:\/\/www.gettyimages.com\/detail\/photo\/two-fathers-laughing-on-a-couch-with-their-daughter-royalty-free-image\/1189458051\">Jules Ingall\/Moment via Getty Images<\/a><\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Some parents feel that if you call them by their first name, you don\u2019t think they are the boss anymore (and parents generally don\u2019t like that). But every family is different, which is part of what makes life so interesting. Some families have their own rules that might differ from your family\u2019s rules.<\/p>\n<p>Most kids call their mom \u201cMom,\u201d but <a href=\"https:\/\/coparenter.com\/blog\/special-alternatives-to-mom-and-dad\/\">some kids don\u2019t and that\u2019s OK<\/a>. For example, for our family rules, our kids may occasionally call us \u201cDenise\u201d and \u201cMom Bethany.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The next time you call out \u201cMom!\u201d in the store, whether in New York, Paris, Hong Kong or Durban, watch how many mothers turn around. It\u2019s all because of a mixture of biology (easy sounds to see and make), environment (parents being happy you said this and smiling) and culture (rules).<\/p>\n<p>If you have children when you grow up, what do you want them to call you?<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><em>Hello, curious kids! Do you have a question you\u2019d like an expert to answer? Ask an adult to send your question to <a href=\"mailto:curiouskidsus@theconversation.com\">CuriousKidsUS@theconversation.com<\/a>. Please tell us your name, age and the city where you live.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>And since curiosity has no age limit \u2013 adults, let us know what you\u2019re wondering, too. We won\u2019t be able to answer every question, but we will do our best.<\/em><!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. Please DO NOT REMOVE. --><img loading=\"lazy\" style=\"border: none !important; box-shadow: none !important; margin: 0 !important; max-height: 1px !important; max-width: 1px !important; min-height: 1px !important; min-width: 1px !important; opacity: 0 !important; outline: none !important; padding: 0 !important; text-shadow: none !important;\" src=\"https:\/\/counter.theconversation.com\/content\/137579\/count.gif?distributor=republish-lightbox-basic\" alt=\"The Conversation\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" \/><!-- End of code. If you don't see any code above, please get new code from the Advanced tab after you click the republish button. The page counter does not collect any personal data. More info: https:\/\/theconversation.com\/republishing-guidelines --><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/profiles\/bethany-van-vleet-1054287\">Bethany Van Vleet<\/a>, Senior Lecturer in Family and Human Development, <em><a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/institutions\/arizona-state-university-730\">Arizona State University<\/a><\/em> and <a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/profiles\/denise-bodman-1054283\">Denise Bodman<\/a>, Principal Lecturer in Social and Family Dynamics, <em><a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/institutions\/arizona-state-university-730\">Arizona State University<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<p>This article is republished from <a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\">The Conversation<\/a> under a Creative Commons license. Read the <a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/why-do-kids-call-their-parents-mom-and-dad-137579\">original article<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Bethany Van Vleet, Arizona State University and Denise Bodman, Arizona State University Curious Kids is a series for children of all ages. If you have a question you\u2019d like an expert to answer, send it to curiouskidsus@theconversation.com. 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