{"id":2250,"date":"2014-11-07T19:24:47","date_gmt":"2014-11-07T19:24:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifeandnews.com\/articles\/?p=2250"},"modified":"2016-08-14T00:26:19","modified_gmt":"2016-08-14T00:26:19","slug":"everything-you-wanted-to-know-about-sexting-but-were-afraid-to-ask","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeandnews.com\/articles\/everything-you-wanted-to-know-about-sexting-but-were-afraid-to-ask\/","title":{"rendered":"Everything you wanted to know about sexting, but were afraid to ask"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Elizabeth Englander<\/a>, Bridgewater State University<\/em><\/p>\n

Stories of teens taking and sending a naked picture of themselves with their phones have been all over the news media in recent years. The outcome? Shocking, according to reports which have suggested that humiliation and sometimes even suicide can follow.<\/p>\n

But what is the reality? Sexting is often seen as a dicey electronic version of \u201cI\u2019ll show you mine, you show me yours\u201d. Many teens (and adults) engage in it. Indeed, some are suggesting that it is becoming a \u201cnormal\u201d part of adolescent sexual development<\/a>. And in general, few psychological problems (if any) are correlated with the behavior.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the bottom line: research suggests that most photos don\u2019t end up in disasters, either socially (being passed around, teased, bullied) or criminally (being prosecuted).<\/p>\n

Such outcomes are possible, but they aren\u2019t highly probable. We should make kids aware of these possibilities, but we have to do that without suggesting that disaster is likely or, worse, inevitable.<\/p>\n

Risky behavior?<\/h2>\n

Sexting is a crime when it involves sending nude pictures of anyone under 18-years-old. A study of thousands of sexting cases<\/a> found that those selected for criminal prosecution in the US in 2011 involved adults asking teens for pictures, or cases of obvious coercion, threats or blackmail. The researchers pointed out that the cases that come to the attention of authorities are more likely to have aggravating circumstances.<\/p>\n

Whether the authorities are actively choosing not<\/em> to prosecute more run-of-the-mill sexting, or whether they are prosecuting teen-on-teen sexting but simply rarely seeing it, is unclear. The news media continue to cover stories such as the recent case in Oakland County, Michigan<\/a>, but true to form, that case went beyond two teens exchanging photos, and involved boys collecting groups of photos for purposes unknown.<\/p>\n

If a teen sends a nude photo to a friend, how big is the risk that it will result in serious harm? Recent research is downplaying that risk. I have found<\/a> that more than three-quarters of teens who sext believe their photo went to the intended recipient and no one else. These teens might be wrong and spreading photos around might be more common; but if the sender believes it has been kept private, then they probably weren\u2019t traumatized by a mass exposure.<\/p>\n

When I studied the after effects of sexting, I found that most incidents didn\u2019t have much of an outcome at all \u2013 either good or bad. Most kids didn\u2019t describe trauma or bullying, but neither did they describe newly-acquired boyfriends or increased popularity. The most common outcome was generally \u201cfeeling worse\u201d, but even that happened in only about one-quarter of the cases.<\/p>\n

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Not all sexting is about fun and games. Image via www.shutterstock.com<\/span>
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Curiosity and coercion<\/h2>\n

Yet there are risks to sexting that have been largely ignored. A lot of sexting is done to attract the recipient – either by an existing girlfriend or boyfriend, or by someone who wants a relationship with the recipient.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s becoming increasingly clear, however, that not all sexting is about fun and games. My biggest concern is when kids under 18 \u2013 often girls \u2013 are pressured by their peers to engage in sexting that they really don\u2019t want to do. The younger they are when they sext, the more likely they are to report that they succumbed to pressure. And that pressure isn\u2019t rare.<\/p>\n

Overall, about two-thirds of the teens in my research studies report that they were pressured or coerced into sexting at least some of the time. Being pressured into sexting sometimes happened within a dating relationship, or it might come from a person (usually a boy) with whom a girl wants to have a relationship. Wanting to attract that boy, and wanting to be attractive to a boyfriend or girlfriend, were the most common reasons for actually sending the photo. About 92% of the teens who were not pressured reported no problems following sexting; but that number dropped to only 68%<\/a> of the teens who felt pressured into sexting.<\/p>\n

Is it time for sexting ed?<\/h2>\n

Hannah Rosin\u2019s recent article in The Atlantic<\/a> told the story of a town in Virginia that discovered an Instagram page featuring a compilation of nude pictures of local girls.<\/p>\n

Officials also found \u2013 to their astonishment \u2013 that sexting appeared to be widespread and common, and that issues such as widespread exposure and criminal liability were far from the minds of the teens involved. Any parent might ask, why haven\u2019t students been taught about the criminal nature of underage sexting? Why haven\u2019t students been warned about how devastating it could be to have a nude photo become public?<\/p>\n

The problem, in my experience, isn\u2019t that adults don\u2019t issue these warnings. The problem is that kids don\u2019t hear them. That deafness probably results from credibility issues. Why should you trust a warning that contains inaccurate data?<\/p>\n

Imagine that I warned you to wear your seat belt, because half of the car rides in America end up with someone going through the windshield. You might not listen to me, given that it\u2019s obvious to anyone that half of the car rides in America don\u2019t end up with people slamming on the brakes, much less going through the windshield.<\/p>\n

Sexting warnings are the same. If our information isn\u2019t correct, if we\u2019re issuing dire warnings about outcomes that are, in reality, pretty rare, then our message isn\u2019t heard.<\/p>\n

The conversations that will ring true with kids aren\u2019t about the law or about social humiliation. These conversations should address the common risks and problems sexting poses, like being pressured to send pictures, or pressuring someone else to send pictures. Some teens may not understand that pressuring someone into sending naked pictures can be sexual harassment. There are no social rules about when it\u2019s OK to take or post a picture without someone\u2019s consent – but 70% of the teens I study say that there should be commonly-accepted and agreed-upon guidelines. \u201cSexting ed\u201d could help us all develop such social norms.<\/p>\n

Both sex and technology are topics that can be anxiety-ridden for parents, and it can be difficult for kids to believe there is any risk when they see so many peers sexting without consequences.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important for parents to discuss risk, but also to discuss them realistically. Talking with your children about obeying the law, respecting others\u2019 privacy, everyone\u2019s right to keep their bodies private, and what values you have about this issue is what parenting around sexting is all about.<\/p>\n

\"The<\/p>\n

Elizabeth Englander does not work for, consult to, own shares in or receive funding from any company or organisation that would benefit from this article, and has no relevant affiliations.<\/em><\/p>\n

This article was originally published on The Conversation<\/a>.
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